www.queendom.com As covered in this chapter, communication styles vary from nonassertive to
aggressive. We recommended that you strive to use an assertive style while avoiding
the tendencies of being nonassertive or aggressive. In trying to be assertive,
however, keep in mind that too much of a good thing is bad. That is, the use
of an assertive style can transform to an aggressive one if it is taken too
far. A Free Self-Assertive Questionnaire for Assertiveness The purpose for this exercise is to provide you with feedback on the extent
to which you use an assertive communication style. Go to the Internet home page
for Body-Mind Queendom (www.queendom.com),
and click on the box Tests & Profiles. (Note: Our use of this
site is for instructional purposes only and does not constitute an endorsement
of any products that may or may not suit your needs. There is no obligation
to buy anything.) Next, click on the Relationships category. Under
the heading Classic Tests, choose Assertiveness Test Abridged.
Complete the quick 10-item questionnaire and hit the scoring button. Read the
interpretation of your results. (Note: Queendom frequently updates its collection
of tests, but the site always has good communication-related questionnaires
such as the Communications Skills Test. You may need to do some
browsing, but it will be well worth the effort.) Questions - How did you score? Are you surprised by the results? Do you agree with the
interpretation of your score?
- Reviewing the questionnaire item by item, can you find aspects of communication
in which you are either nonassertive or possibly too assertive? Do you think
that your communication style can be improved by making adjustments within
these areas of communication?
- Based on the results of this questionnaire, develop an action plan for improving
your communication style. Table 12-1 is a helpful source.
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